You are not a perfectionist. You are just a critic.
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During this lockdown, I have listened to people - on social media, my own friends, the news. Read the newspapers. Things are very different now. Things people used to take for granted - going out with friends, having domestic help, going to office to get away from it all and meeting one's extra-marital partner there - none of these is now possible.
This has led to an observation about human beings as a species.
I think, that at the core, human beings are a species of monkeys. If they can snatch something and run, they will do that. In terms of game theory, if they can get away without paying their share, they will do that. We do not complete the transaction. We 'make a profit' on as many transactions as possible.
It doesn't matter what the currency is - physical, social, emotional, monetary. We are just snatchers. And in relationships, one will typically be the giver, and one the taker.
The one who is the giver, gives and gives. The one who is the taker, takes shamelessly, and usually, relentlessly.
Once again, it doesn't matter what the currency is. For some, it is physical work. For some, emotional succour, and for some sexual. The numbers for intimate partner violence have always been staggering, but I think the lockdown tells us why.
Because we are inherently takers and snatchers, intimate partner violence is core to intimate partnerships.
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During this lockdown, I have listened to people - on social media, my own friends, the news. Read the newspapers. Things are very different now. Things people used to take for granted - going out with friends, having domestic help, going to office to get away from it all and meeting one's extra-marital partner there - none of these is now possible.
This has led to an observation about human beings as a species.
I think, that at the core, human beings are a species of monkeys. If they can snatch something and run, they will do that. In terms of game theory, if they can get away without paying their share, they will do that. We do not complete the transaction. We 'make a profit' on as many transactions as possible.
It doesn't matter what the currency is - physical, social, emotional, monetary. We are just snatchers. And in relationships, one will typically be the giver, and one the taker.
The one who is the giver, gives and gives. The one who is the taker, takes shamelessly, and usually, relentlessly.
Once again, it doesn't matter what the currency is. For some, it is physical work. For some, emotional succour, and for some sexual. The numbers for intimate partner violence have always been staggering, but I think the lockdown tells us why.
Because we are inherently takers and snatchers, intimate partner violence is core to intimate partnerships.
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