Wednesday, February 04, 2009

Uncle next door

He went in his sleep. Thank God for that. I really cared for him. He was a quiet man, but he ALWAYS stopped to talk to baby and me, and we always looked out for him. We never passed each other with just a "Hi how are you?", unlike with most other neighbors.

This morning, a lot feels amiss. Nothing feels right. When he was going, suddenly, a strong urge rose to see him one last time, to touch his feet - something i had never done(because i was a daughter and daughters don't touch feet) .

Sharing grief is supposed to help.

29 comments:

The Rat... said...

:-( :-)

~nm said...

I can truly imagine what you are feeling right now.

May his soul rest in peace.

human being said...

this touched me in a strange way... i couldn't pass by it silently...
i came to give you a virtual hug for your tender heart and your beautiful thoughts -- what our world really needs...

love

Sagarone said...

I guess there is a lesson to be learnt here. Live life in such a way that everyone whose life you touch, misses you when you are gone.

hitch writer said...

God bless !!

Balvinder Singh said...

So sad !! you reminded me of my close friend's old ailing father who though, was bed ridden for a long time and had lost his vision too, would immediately sense my arrival to their house and would call out to his son "Oye dekho balli aya hai, ehnu drink drunk puchho" He passed away in August last year and i feel the vaccum in their house whenevr i go there.

exotic said...

Sometimes, ppl we might not even know properly touch our lives as if they are an integral part of it.

May his soul rest in peace.
Amen.

Hobo ........ ........ ........ said...

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You Know Me Very Well said...

Lady...I can understand what you must be feeling right now....It is that strange feeling of loss where in you may not be even aware of what you have lost... some people do touch our lives in that sweet caring way....

May his soul rest in peace and u take care of yourself...A big hug for u ......

Z said...

I'm so sorry. I share your sadness.

xx

SandyCarlson said...

I am sure your neighbor carried your respect and neighborly love into the next world. God bless.

Id it is said...

Regrets are hard to live with unless confronted; I'm sure he thought of you as well in his last moments; you were a bright spot in his life, just as he was in yours, and sometimes bright spots go unreckoned till they pass you by and that happens to the best of us.

(¯`•._.•[Raaji]•._.•´¯) said...

oh i am so sorry. May his soul rest in peace.

mayz said...

i m so sorry..
certain ppl touch us in a very special way...m sure his words n thots wud always b thr for ya

Ekta said...

:-(
god feels bad...sometimes strangers touch our lives in so many ways that its difficult to explain!
May his soul rest in peace and remember his blessings are always with u!

Mampi said...

It is but human for us to feel that way for utter strangers too.

for an old person, to be missed thus, is perhaps the best tribute.
May his soul rest in peace.

Tazeen said...

that was poignant and sweet

Ajit said...

May his soul rest in peace.... :(

sorry for the loss.....

The Phosgene Kid said...

Sorry to hear about your uncle. Very tough losing someone close. Most of my family is gone, just my brother and I now.

mathew said...

may his soul rest in peace...

EXSENO said...

I am so sorry for your loss, but at least he went in his sleep what a easy peaceful way to leave this world.
I have always hoped that when it is my time to leave this world that is the way I go.
I had to watch my husband die struggling to breath and trying to tell me something, that I will never know, but if I had to guess what it was I would imagine it would have been I love you. He said that often.

Hopper said...

to speak of grief does help...

silence is thicker than forgetting or remembrance...

The Phosgene Kid said...

Hang in there!!

dharmabum said...

i wouldn't stop myself from doing such a thing if i ever felt it...

Mama - Mia said...

may his soul rest in peace.

you both were lucky to have each other around.

abha

How do we know said...

Thanks so much for your messages.. in this case, sharing really did help the grieving... i would login everyday to read your messages of support, sometimes over again.
Thank you people!!

Saadia said...

Prayers.

roop said...

how old was he? :(

J P Joshi said...

A loss...... a lesson..... a life well lived.... may his soul rest in peace.