Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Lessons for Life

Today, i learnt something very important. and i've realised that when something is important, i tend to write it in my diary but then look for it here. So it makes sense to post it here too, right?

Today, i learnt that there are a few things, about 5-10 things, that are the core of your personality. They make you "you". These are usually, though not necessarily, small things.. Like you have to have a cell phone on silent. You cant stand the ring of a cell phone. Its not funny. There is a reason to a supposedly small thing too. It is important to understand , identify, and acknowledge those core things, and then to not compromise on them, no matter what.

We compromise on these things for various reasons - relationships, marriage, career, money, friends, social norms.. whatever. But just dont do it. Because if you do it, then you end up with a an unexplained frustration that you will never understand. It is this that will make you "successful but not happy." And once that harmony is lost, you will not be able to get it back because you wont be able to tell what you are missing.

As we grow up, we are taught to get out of touch with ourselves. Children are always so clear about what they want and what they do not want. Ask any adult, and they wont be half as certain. hell, they wont be one tenth as certain. While it wont help to stay so defined on EVERYTHING, its extremely, extremely important to stay in touch with the 5-10 things that make you the core you. Even if they are small and inconsequential to others.

9 comments:

~G said...

Insightful post girl! It made me wonder how easily we compromise on these core things as you said, without giving it a thought. And then wonder what is missing and whether we have changed. Then comes the self-doubt phase. After which it's just a downward spiral emotionally.
Nice post again. Loved it. :)

Himanshu Tandon said...

Bang on !!! couldn't agree with you more..

AA_Mom said...

Awesome, very insightful! Couldn't agree more.

How do we know said...

Hi G: Totally true.. esp that thing abt downward spiral emotionally.. i cldnt put it as clearly as i'd have liked tho.. but the msg gets thru..

Hi HImanshu: Thank you!


Hi AA_Mom: Thank you!!

Z said...

I was an uncertain and timid child, I don't know why. I was also easygoing, which I mistook for indecisive. I was so shy that, even if I did really want something I was afraid to say so. Now, I am not afraid to speak up about what matters to me. So, I agree with what you say, but I've done it in reverse!

How do we know said...

Hi Z: Now THAT is interesting..

mathew said...

interesting and very true..i think as i grow older, i have started believing in certain principles and have tried to follow it...it actually makes you feel good that you have certain rules set for yourself in life!! nice post!!!

Mr.singh king said...

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Mr.singh king said...

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