We often think that Love and Relationships are the same thing. Love is like a flowing river - it nourishes, it enhances, and it flows freely. If we dont pollute it with negative things, it will always remain clear. Relationships, on the other hand, are containers. They draw boundaries and put things inside and outside. They confine. By definition, a relationship is like a dam on a river. Thats why they are not the same thing. Dams and containers are necessary. Our misery stems from the fact that we create a container, and look for the river. They are not the same thing. If we remember that we have created a container, we will not look for the unlimited flow of love in it. Like water in a container, love in a relationship needs refreshing, otherwise it can go bad.