Thursday, July 19, 2012

to all those parents who oppose "wrong" "love marriages"

why are love marriages wrong? our children are choosing who they want to spend their lives with. why do we think that our decision will be better than theirs?

माँ बाप को अक्सर लगता है की बच्चे अपने फैसले लेने के काबिल नहीं हैं। उन्हें समझ नहीं है.

हमारे बच्चों का फैसला सिर्फ एक ही सूरत में गलत हो सकता है - अगर हमने उन्हें बचपन से सही शिक्षा नहीं दी है  तो . अगर हम ने उन्हें बचपन से सही गलत का भेद करना सिखाया है, दुनिया की अच्छाई  बुराइ  सिखाई है, तो हमारे बच्चे गलत फैसला नहीं लेंगे

जब हम ये कहते हैं की हमारे बच्चे सही फैसला नहीं ले सकते उनमें समझ नहीं है, तो दुसरे शब्दों में हम ये कह रहे हैं की हम अच्छे माँ बाप नहीं हैं। हमें अपने बच्चों को तालीम देना नहीं आता . हमने उन्हें सही वक़्त  पर सही चीज़ें नहीं सिखाई।

जिस का मतलब ये हुआ की हम माँ बाप होने के काबिल नहीं। तो अगर हम सही वक़्त पर बच्चों को सही तरीके से तैयार नहीं कर सके तो हम क्या कर सकते हैं?


BK Chowla, said...

It is a cycle.Our parents,perhaps,did exactly same to us.It only shows indian values.I see nothing wrong in this attitude

How do we know said...

Chowla sir: you see nothing wrong in the attitude that says children cannot think for themselves?

Really, you dont see a parent's failure in saying, my child cannot think for himself? WE have failed as parents if we raise mental cripples as children. If we wanted cripples, we should have adopted them. There is no point is having children and then making them emotional cripples as part of their "growing up".

indian values has very little to do with this. but thats for a separate post.

Cee Kay said...

Well said!!! You are right - when parents say their kids can't make the right decisions on their own, they are actually saying "We didn't give our kids the requisite tools (training, education, freedom) to LEARN to make their own decisions".

Parents who give their kids the right tools to become independent, don't doubt their kids' decision-making capabilities.

Everyone can make a mistake. As a parent I will always worry about my kids making mistakes. But if I truly want my kids to "grow up",I will let them make those mistakes and learn from them.

How do we know said...

cee kay: loved ur last line. absolutely!!