Tuesday, December 07, 2010

Where are the girls??

Today, i went to deposit fees in Ishaan's school. The session will only start in April, but the fees is due now. This was post school hours and it was a pleasure to see children playing all around - in the corridor, in the field, where 2 soccer games were in session, and on another side, general pushing and shoving games.. all in good fun. And then, just as i reached the building, it struck. Where are the girls? Why are no girls playing in the fields? No badminton, no basketball, no soccer (i m a sucker for Girls soccer) , no tennis.. nothing! not one girl?
I paid the fees and on my way out, stopped by at the reception and asked "Where are the girls? Why is there not a single girl out there playing? Of any age at all?" The answer was rather non commital - they are probably in the classroom or in the library or wherever they want to be. This is not the sports period. So every child does what they want to do at this time.

Well..... not ONE girl interested in playing? Thats REALLY dissapointing. What is going on here?
Is it the peer pressure? The jeers from the boys? What is it about sports that keeps girls away in a well to do(even if i say so myself) public school in a well to do neighborhood? Even girls in slums do physical play. What is going on here?

What happens around you? Do girls do active physical sports? I think its CRUCIAL for girls to be athletic and active in sports. it gives physical confidence like nothing else does. And it doesnt even have to be formal sports - just physical playing - running, climbing trees, racing, jumping contests, gymnastics.. anything at all.. where are the girls??

9 comments:

starry eyed said...

It depresses me to see our public playgrounds too...not one girl. I took my kids (one girl and one little boy) once, and all three of us felt so uncomfortable, we left. So we turn to gated communities and private sports clubs...

Himanshu Tandon said...

I guess its a sad mix of over protective parents, leering vultures and blinding advent of technology and gadgets that keeps young girls glued to either TV screens, iPods or Mobiles...

Z said...

Is it the same in India as it is here? - the girls tend to be much better at reading than the boys.

Very often, gymnastics and dancing classes are something that girls are more likely to go to than boys (private lessons after school). Playing in the playground, fairly equal numbers of each but they mostly play differently - boys are generally more rough and tumble and girls more structured. Some of them play football, but usually it's games with rules that involve taking turns and watching, like skipping games.

Amrita said...

I was too shy to participate in a running competition in school..(something I still remember, and wish I had done it - not been so shy! and thoughtful about the boys present there)

and the teachers did not encourage/push, yes, I wanted to be pushed a little. And the rest of the girls just observed the 2-3 girls that did participate, and laughed when the fat girl ran :(

The Phosgene Kid said...

We have girl's soccer, field hockey and the women's basketball teams are big.

BK Chowla, said...

The blame rests with parents.

How do we know said...

Hi Starry: Yes, but even in gated complexes, where are the girls? Do you see them engaging in physical play?

Hi Himanshu: ONLY the girls are glued? IF that is the case, then it needs to be corrected. and FAST.

Hi Z: At least they play. This was ane BIG playground full of boys playing different things, but not ONE girl. Am yet to get over the shock.

Hi Amrita: That incident is an eye opener for me. Maybe thats what's happening to our girls. They need a push and a shove.

Hi Phos: OK, now i m jealous. REALLY jealous. And happy for those girls..

Hi Chowla sir: Umm.. i think we all share the blame to some degree.. parents of boys and parents of girls.. schools that make it difficult for girls to play in skirts.. and not enough facilities for girls's sports.. a lot of things..what is your view?

Peenuts said...

I totally agree.. but the encouragement has to come from parents and support from teachers. My sis plays for her school football team and its a pleasure seeing bask in the admiration from her friends and peer group. My parents were sceptical at first that sports wud affect her studies but now they are proud of her achievements.
The crux is that parents need to understand that life is more than topping in class or becoming an engg/doctor.

Id it is said...

That is truly a shame when one half of a human population goes unrepresented in a sport that popular! Is this happening in a city?