Monday, March 28, 2011

Saturday, March 26, 2011

मौनी बाबा

कहाँ कह रहे हो तुम
कुछ ऐसा
जैसा मैंने सोचा था ॥

कहाँ हाथों में हाथ डालने की कोशिश की तुमने ?
न आँखों में झाँक कर देखा शरारत से ।

"अच्छी लगती हो मुझे" इतना भर भी
कह नहीं रहे हो तुम
प्यार की बातें तो
खैर तुम कर ही नहीं सकते शायद।

बस अपने घर की चाबियों का छल्ला
मेरे हाथ में धरा है तुमने ।
तुम से तो मुई चाबियाँ अच्छी हैं -
कम से कम "छन " तो करती हैं!
आओ।
तुम नहीं जानते हो
दुनिया है।

बच्चे की तरह
ये मान कर चले हैं हम
की बारह ही रंग होते हैं दुनिया में
पर ये दुनिया है
ये अपने
दूधिया से ले कर स्याह तक
सभी रंग दिखाएगी तुम्हे
और तुम
विस्मित से देखोगे।

पहले नाम देने की चेष्टा भी करो शायद
पर नाम
जल्द ही ख़त्म हो जायेंगे
और रंगों का आपसी फर्क भी।

तब
समभाव
जानोगे तुम
और बुदध के सामान
ज्ञाता होगे।

Thursday, March 24, 2011

The Tenant

When you return
you will फंड
a black house.
The white लाइट
with which
we covered the walls
- like covers on cushions,
was not cleaned properly।
It gathered dust
- Why didn't u come and dust it?
I can sweep the floors
But i can't reach the high walls।
Why didnt u come and clean the cobwebs,
that had begun to grow
in the corners of our relationship?

There were other people here
wanting to rent the house।
I haven't taken off the "To Let" board yet
That's for you to do।
So people still see the board
and try to enter.
And you left
after paying the advance.

Why weren't you there
to answer him
when someone came
to be my tenant?

How much could i do alone?
Dusting the house,
keeping off other tenants and
Waiting for you?
So, i went ahead and painted the house black.
You will see when you come.
And the white light is pressed
under the black.
You will have to chip and scrape
the whole house
to take it out again.
That will give you an idea
of how i toiled
when i painted it black.

किरायेदार
तुम आओ

तो देखना
सारा घर
काला पुता होगा
जो रौशनी हमने तुमने मिलकर चढ़ाई थी
घर की दीवारों पर
तकिये के लिहाफों की तरह
उसे साफ़ नहीं किया
धुल जम गयी थी उस पर
तुमने आ कर उसे झाड़ा क्यूँ नहीं?
फर्श तो रोज़ बुहार देती थी मैं
पर ऊपर मेरा हाथ नहीं पहुंचता
- तुमने आ कर वो जाले क्यूँ नहीं हटाये
जो हमारे रिश्ते के कोनो में लग रहे थे?
कोई आया था यहाँ रहने
मैंने किसी को नहीं बताया
की किरायेदार रख लिया है मैंने ।
सब मकान को अब भी खाली समझते हैं।
तुमने तो बस पेशगी किराया दिया
और चलते बने।
जब कोई आया
किराए पर लेने
ये मकान
तो तुम
क्यूँ नहीं थे
दरवाज़ा खोलने को?
तुम क्यूँ नहीं थे
उसे बताने की मेरा किराए चढ़ गया मकान?

मैं क्या क्या बचाती अकेली ?
उस धुल को साफ़ रखना
किरायेदारों को मोड़ना वापिस
और तुम्हारे लिए रोज़ खाना बनाना
- शायद तुम आज लौट आओ!

बुरे किरायेदार हो तुम -
इसी लिए मैंने सारे घर को
काला पोत दिया है ।
जब आओ, तो देखना ।
और रौशनी
जो काले रंग के नीचे
दबी बैठी है
उसे खुरच कर निकालना होगा तुम्हे -
ताकि तुम्हे पता चले
की मैंने कालिख पोतने में
कितनी मेहनत की है!

Monday, March 21, 2011

Gurgaon Shops review - Big Bazaar, Spencer's, Bags n More

Monthly grocery shopping is a 4 hour pilgrimage that one dreads. However, it has to be gone through. Usually, i take my son and go to Spencer's. Its a pleasant experience and the store is well designed.
Yesterday, however, one made the mistake of going o Big bazaar in Sahara Mall. The experience was bad, the prices were higher, and in general, the decision was way less than optimal.

During Feb, we bought a bag from Bags n More - Ambience Mall. The handle broke in 2 weeks flat! My Lajpat Nagar bags last much longer than that - at least a few months at a time!

There, review of shops completed.

Monday, March 14, 2011

जुस्तजू जिस की थी - उमराव जान अदा

जुस्तजू जिस की थी उस को तो न पाया हम ने
इस बहाने से मगर देख ली दुनिया हमने

तुझ को रुसवा न किया, खुद भी पशेमा न हुए,
इश्क की रस्म को इस तरह निभाया हमने

कब मिली थी, कहाँ बिछड़ी थी, हमें याद नहीं
ज़िन्दगी तुझ को तो बस ख्वाब में देखा हमने

अदा और सुनाये भी तो क्या हाल अपना
उम्र का लम्बा सफ़र तै किया तनहा हमने

Translation not possible.

Thursday, March 03, 2011

Being a Flexi Mom Successfully

This post is about being a flexi time/part time/ telecommuting worker, especially if you are a woman.

I have been helped by professional advice from other women, so today, am trying to pay it forward (yes, saw that movie today and cried buckets) .

1. Flexi time is not part time : This, imho, is the single most important lesson for professionals. just because someone is not monitoring your activities does not mean that they are not monitoring the quantum of work being delivered. In particular, sales and allied jobs - your job may or may not need you to enter time sheets and visit sheets, but people notice.

2. Keep it professional: If possible, have a separate corner in your house/room, no matter how young your child or how full your house. If you do flexi time or part time, make sure that those times are dedicated to work and work alone.

3. Excel at something: If you are going to work part-time/flexi time or telecommute, it is important to excel at at least one thing, or take ownership of at least one thing for which you are very important. it really helps.

4. Commitment is not part time or flexi time: Remember that. Your organisation will allow flexibility on the work, not on the work ethic.

5. Communicate and Stay in touch: Sure, you cannot network after office and you cannot go out with the others. But does that stop you from communicating in other ways? Share professional advice, help people in their work, send regular updates to your stakeholders, and make an effort to understand their end of the communication.

6. KRA please: Ask your employers what your KRA(Key Result Areas) are. Is it logging in 4/8 hours for sure? Is it completing the work, no matter how long it takes? is it being available on call at all times, even if u r not working all the time? Find out what this KRA is, and then, make sure that you deliver on it just like another employee without the perks of flexi time etc.

7. Do not accept unacceptable behavior: After you have delivered your end of the bargain, do not let anyone treat you unfairly. You have been fair - you have asked for certain concessions, and you have delivered - professionally and well, on your KRAs, so why should you be short changed on praise or promotion?

And last, but not the least, this talk by Sheryl Sandberg - Facebook COO, is one of the BEST things i have come across in a long long time, about being a woman professional. raise a toast then!